No: it’s a very powerful two-letter word. And sometimes it can be better than ‘yes’.
‘No’ may be associated with a negative response, but it can actually be used to your advantage – in a positive way. Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ and don’t be afraid to hear ‘no’. Why?
‘No’ can be positive
Saying ‘no’ can provide you with a sense of empowerment. I’m not implying you should go around saying ‘no’ as a way to empower yourself, or saying ‘no’ to exude power or dominance. I’m more so implying that if you don’t want to do something or if you have too much on your plate, you shouldn’t feel guilty or bad for saying NO.
Don’t always feel the need to say ‘yes’
‘No’ isn’t such a bad thing. Do you ever find yourself feeling overwhelmed because you’ve said ‘yes’ to far too many things? I know I’ve been in that boat, and as much as “yes” can feel empowering, too much “yes” can sometimes bog us down. Don’t be afraid to swap out “yes” every so often for a “no”…and also don’t feel like you have to explain yourself for saying ‘no’.
‘No’ is just an answer
Are you afraid of hearing “no”? It’s normal to feel that way. But guess what? ‘No’, is just an answer. Any closed-ended question is 50/50 – you either get a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’…and ‘no’ doesn’t have to mean something bad. Maybe you’re afraid to ask the initial question because you’re afraid of hearing ‘no’….but at the end of the day, it really is just a ‘no’. It’s a ‘no’ that might lead you down a different path, or a ‘no’ that will open up a new door for you. And remember, if you don’t ask…you might not even get the chance to see if that ‘no’ could have been a ‘yes’.
So the next time you’re afraid to say ‘no’, just say it – you are entitled to use it! And if you’re nervous that a question you ask will lead to a ‘no’, use that ‘no’ to your advantage and determine how to make it into something positive.