I used to always think being mindful meant to have a silent mind. I thought it meant to have zero thoughts and chilling in the present without a worry in sight. I thought I was terrible at it because, let me tell you, my mind does not stop thinking. Does yours???
I then learned that my definition for mindfulness was really just a definition for silent meditation. A practice that is very, very difficult to achieve.
Embracing the present
Mindfulness isn’t about feeling relaxed and zen, it’s about embracing the present – whatever the present may be – and going with the flow. You can be mindful in sad situations, happy times, anxious moments and during frustrations. You can be mindful during any experience.
Mindfulness is really just another term for acceptance.
The thing about life is that we can’t change the present moment. Ever. We can think about the past and the present, but we can’t time travel to those times…if we could, life would be so different.
So, the next time you’re feeling impatient in traffic, remember that you can’t change the fact that you’re sitting in it. Turn on your tunes and just let that stress about traffic float away. Embrace the moment because you sure can’t do anything about it.
When you’re feeling anxious about something and you’re kicking yourself for feeling anxious, just stop putting yourself down. Don’t try to change the fact that you’re feeling anxious, just go with it, it will pass.
And when you’re feeling sad, let yourself feel sad. You don’t have to be smiling 24/7. I actually hope you aren’t smiling 24/7…because that would just be weird!
There’s only one step for becoming more mindful and that’s going with the flow!